|Brittany 22, Lindsay, 20, Zachary 17|
Today's post is one that's "Non Stamping"...and actually writing posts like this one is the reason I started my blog originally. So....if you stopped by for stamping....check the "Blog Archives" section over there ----->
I started blogging because I needed some place to pour out my thoughts and feelings about being a mom of three amazing kids.....two of which just happen to be autistic. It was just for me....and I figured my mom would read it....that's about it. Somehow it helps me purge all the gross feelings that sneak up on me when autism decides to kick my butt.
So....Mom, if you're reading this....here's the latest from here.....
Since we found out that Lindsay was going to be involved in the awesome Project SEARCH program at the hospital we also discovered that 1. We needed to file for "legal guardianship" of her and 2. We needed to apply for SSI benefits for her through Social Security. Um, excuse me....but I don't recall either of those chapters in the book What to Expect When You're Expecting.
SSI will give Linz her own money...however small the amount might be....and we will help her learn how to manage her money, open a checking account, and maybe feel just a tad independent. SSI will also take care of the $6,000 it costs for her to attend Project SEARCH and pay for the Job Coach. So we received two questionnaire packets in the mail. The first was to be filled out by Linz (yeah, right!) and the other was to be filled out by Mike and me. I called and found out that we could "help" her fill her's out. Note: There was not a single question she could answer alone in the 11+ pages in her packet. So tonight Mike and I sat at the dining room table and filled out all 22+ pages and it was truly painful.
Now let me just say that most of the parents of the kids that both Linz and Zach have gone through school with in special ed have either separated or divorced. It's sad but it's a very real statistic unfortunately. I mean what do you expect. It's HARD....it's FRUSTRATING...and quite honestly IT SUCKS OUT LOUD. Mike and I are definitely in the minority. NOW....let me just say that we've had our bumps and bruises along the way. We've cried together (mostly I've cried....he's held me)...we've laughed together.....we've lost sleep together....we've prayed together and we've most definitely asked "WHY??" together. I know....some people say, "Well ALL parents go through hard times with their kids". I'm not saying that they don't or that we are some special group of parents....BUT....I'm simply saying it's tough. People also say (a LOT) "Well, God only gives these things to those He knows can handle them"...... um....I'm gonna have to bite my tongue on
So as we poured over the questions in those 22 pages tonight and second guessed our answers, I
But for now....I will say that I'm very blessed to have three beautiful, smart, loving children who are ALL absolutely true blessings. And I thank God every single day that He had the perfect man picked out for me. One that would love me beyond words.....hold me when I cry...make me laugh so hard I can't breathe....be an amazing Dad to our kids....and be the best husband and "teammate" imaginable.